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If somebody wants to pay me to fire up InDesign and create a brochure that is full of antivax bullshit and lies, I am better off taking the Mfam peace & love shirt in contrast I will get this short-term income hit of refusing the bullshit-and-lies job because I’m “too busy” than taking the long-term income hit of gaining a reputation for intentionally screwing up jobs, or just giving myself a really ugly portfolio. “Normal” is not how anything in relationships should be judged. There are many, many things that would be considered normal that I would not find acceptable in a companion. It’s “normal” to want to have children. That doesn’t work for me. It’s “normal” to avoid conflict and hide one’s feelings. This also doesn’t work for me. Based on countless questions and answers on Quara, it is “normal” to not trust one’s partner and control their interactions with other people. That’s a hard no from me.
My point is that normal is no way to determine if a behavior should be acceptable to you or not. You have to decide if you find it acceptable that your girlfriend reportedly shuts down all discussion when you two disagree. Personally, I would not find this Mfam peace & love shirt in contrast I will get this acceptable and would ask what was behind her desire to avoid having a discussion about a topic where we don’t exactly agree. If she’s unwilling or unable to communicate on that more vulnerable level I would seriously consider ending things because I can’t be with someone who isn’t willing to talk and work things out regardless of how difficult or painful that talk may be. When someone tells me they want to “agree to disagree” during a discussion my impression is that they no longer want to discuss what we’ve been talking about. I double check with myself to make sure I wasn’t trying to bully them into agreeing with me or belaboring my point just to be certain it wasn’t because I was being a jerk. Agreeing to disagree is a perfectly acceptable place to land once in awhile. However, if that person turns to this phrase with any sort of frequency, I would begin to feel that they really aren’t interested in speaking with me so much as speaking at me and looking for an echo chamber to validate their already held beliefs.
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